Jill of Many Trades

“Jack of all trades, master of none.” How many times have I heard this quote? How many times have I used it myself? Usually, the accompanying tone is a bit apologetic or self-deprecating, the unspoken emphasis on the obsession with mastery. 10,000 hours, isn’t that what is needed to even begin to get close to mastery?

I don’t think I have the ‘Mastery’ personality. I wish I did. There is a part of me, a bigger part than I would care to admit, that believes I would be so much more if I could attain Mastery. More accomplished, more interesting, more successful, just more. Mastery implies a seriousness, true commitment to something which in turn becomes a life.

Persistence, perseverance, and practice, the three P’s of Mastery. 

I persist until I figure out all I need to know at that moment. 

I persevered long after it would have been wiser to move on in some cases. 

Practice: “practice makes perfect”, another common phrase in the canon of my upbringing. Perfection has too often led to procrastination.

Did you know that the full quote is:

“Jack of all trades, master of none, but oftentimes better than a master of one”.  William Shakespeare

All my life, I only knew the first part of the saying. Today, the meaning in its entirety revealed itself while gathering background for this post. I feel like dancing. Thank you, Mr. Shakespeare.

Playing basketball in Middle and High School for the fun of it, not because I wanted to become the best. The basket of wool and knitting needles waiting for me to become reacquainted. The NY Times recipes I start with the intention of following to the word, only to find myself improvising just because “why not?”. My eclectic taste in books, movies, art, clothing, food, you name it.

I have been released from the pursuit of Mastery because it is The way to be. Permission has been granted to try a bit, a bite of everything from the smorgasbord of life. Thank goodness, I stopped waiting for permission many years back.

The mastery I wish to practice is curiosity, creativity, and kindness.

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You can’t always get what you want…

The Rolling Stone lyrics “you can’t always get what you want” kept going through my head after a recent walk in NYC and lots of eavesdropping. It was the end of the workday on a Tuesday and already a dark, chilly evening. I wondered if anyone who was complaining had really taken the time to ask themselves-What do I want? What do I need?

Learning to Listen to Your Own Life by Kristan Swan

Learning to Listen to Your Own Life by Kristan Swan

The conversation also explores the fear of success, the relationship between spirituality and professional growth, and the significance of support systems in building confidence, and introduces her unique journaling method, ‘Spaghetti on the Wall,’ which encourages self-awareness and non-judgmental observation.

Death by a thousand cuts

My first marriage eroded slowly, almost without my noticing it. I am aware of other times I have allowed dreams and ideas to die a slow death. It has been a pattern. With attention, it is possible to achieve dreams, grow ideas into a reality, and deepen relationships. Each day, one step at a time.