- A dogās love is like no other.
- Friendships ebb and flow.Ā
- Dance every chance you get.
- It doesnāt have to be this hard.
- People tell you exactly who they are in the first 15 minutes.
- Pay attention to those first 15 minutes
- Sleep is good for you.Ā
- Put down the phone, stop resisting.
- Love is infinite.
- Creativity is infinite.
- Ask the dumb question, I guarantee someone else has the same question.
- Show up, even when you feel less than 100%, especially when you feel less than 100%.
- Date men shorter than you.Ā
- I will always love my children.Ā
- I donāt always like them.
- My kids donāt always like me.
- Slow down.Ā
- Urgency is based on someone else deciding what is important and imposing their schedule on yours.Ā
- Make sure to decide what is important to you.
- Savor the wins, learn from losses.
- Spend time with people who are different from you.Ā
- Read books. Your brain will thank you.
- Creativity is available in every day.
- Sulking only hurts yourself.
- Apologize as soon as you are able.Ā
- Sometimes āas soon as you are ableā means taking time to reflect on what you are really sorry about.
- Donāt use āSorryā as a way to get out of your bad behavior or thoughtlessness.
- Handwritten āThank youā notes still matter.
- It is better to be overdressed than underdressed.
- Remember to look up. The stars, the sun, the moon, the clouds remind us of our place.
- Your environment matters.Ā
- Cooking is an act of love.
- Sharing a meal is a great way to get to know someone.
- Random acts of kindness have a positive ārippleā effect.
- The gut/brain connection is real.
- Pay attention to your intuition.
- Feeling angry usually means you broke your own rules. Stop blaming the other person/situation.
- Beating yourself up over something is simply a distraction from taking responsibility, being accountable, and moving forward.
- The best therapy sessions are when you think you are good and donāt need therapy anymore.
- Everyone is responsible for their own good time.
- Resist the lure of negative belonging:complaining about things with others or trying one up each other about your hardships (this includes ābusynessā)
- Confidence comes from being comfortable in your own skin, not from perfection.
- Create your own look.
- Embrace boredom.
- Stay hydrated.
- Make lists and then be willing to rip them up.
- Changing your mind doesnāt mean you are flaky or unreliable. It means you got some new information.
- Treasure your memories and moments more than your possessions.
- Give the benefit of the doubt.Ā
- Not everything is about you.
- Keep a pen and paper handy.
- Enjoy the process. It is often as fun as the destination.
- Take a walk.
- Be open to the unexpected.
- Smell the roses and the lilacs, the osmanthus, the orange blossoms, the jasmineā¦
- Keep a plant at your desk.
- Admit when you forget someoneās name.
- Breathe deeply and exhale fully.
Living with Intention Instead of Drifting
Control or Be Controlled, hosted by Darlington Ogbuka, explores discipline, self-mastery, modern addiction, and the psychology of ambition. In this episode, Darlington sits down with Kristan Swan for a conversation on taking back control; mentally, emotionally, and...
