October officially ushers in the season of holidays, culminating with the end of the year. Holidays naturally have us thinking about our traditions, our time-tested ways of recognizing these designated special days. While we are in the midst of performing our traditions, it is easy to act out of habit. The decorations are placed in the same spot as always. We cook the same foods with the same recipes. We may find ourselves repeating patterns of behavior out of habit, too. It is a fine line between celebrating the season with our traditions and going through the motions. Traditions at their core are meant to honor those who came before us, to affirm our sense of belonging. Habits tend to be the things we do almost unconsciously, both our ‘good’ and ‘bad’ habits.
Where does ritual exist in this dance between tradition and habit? The etymology of ritual highlights the religious or spiritual nature of ritual, as in rites of passage. Within Proto-Indo-European etymology, the root of ritual is related to the concept of counting, fitting together, and carefully observing. My journey of self-discovery confirms the connection of careful observation and spirituality. Daily written reflections include something I noticed in myself and the world, and more often than not, these observations remind me of that which is greater than me.
What if this season alongside our traditions, we consider rituals that support and nourish us?
Ritual can provide solace. Ritual can deepen our connections within ourselves and with others. Ritual at its most meaningful, is not a mindless series of actions done because that is how it has always been done or because that is how we are supposed to do ‘the thing’. Consider this your invitation to create personal rituals that are in alignment with your true self and how you want to show up in the world.
This holiday season as you navigate traditions is there a ritual you could embrace to nurture you?
